All success in career and life begins with having the right mindset.  A mindset programmed for success.  In this interview Kylie Ryan, a highly skilled Mind Coach & NLP Master, teaches us how to reprogram your mind and understand your own worth, in order to live the life (and career) of your dreams.  Kylie is a true inspiration and shares with us her own beautiful story about overcoming weight gain and going on to teach and inspire others.

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Kylie B

It’s my pleasure today to be interviewing Kylie Ryan. Kylie is a mind coach. She’s also a neuro-linguistic master practitioner and a certified hypnotherapist.  Kylie has a unique story to tell about, how she went 30kg overweight to running a highly successful coaching business that empowers individuals to understand their own minds, free themselves from limiting beliefs and love who they are.  Kylie is dedicated to transforming one million women’s lives over the next five years through her upcoming book: Goddess Body Quest Program.

Kylie R

I’m happy to be here and thrilled to share some of my insights along my 11-year career journey in mindset coaching and personal transformation and tips that would be able to help someone who’s looking into shifting their career.

Kylie B

Let’s start with your career journey. If you could talk us through when you were growing up until today in transforming women’s lives.

Kylie R

My childhood dream was to become an archaeologist and then I discovered my other passion is music and singing. I’ve also jumped into my coaching career. My personal pain and struggle got me into the path of coaching – being able to help and transform people’s lives.

Kylie B

What did you study initially when you left school and talk us through from there.

Kylie R

I studied Communications at UTS, it was a compromise with my father who wanted me to be a lawyer and myself wanted to go to the conservatory and study music. I love to learn in school and still now that’s why I have a long list of qualifications. It never occurred to me to work in corporate being that my parents are both self employed.  I struggled for years. When I put on that 30kgs, that became a pre-cursor in my transformation. People sometimes find it hard to believe that it was me 30kgs ago. When I was growing up I always had llow self worth, even I was a high achiever.  I was always in living in a fantasy world thinking that someone would come along and rescue me from that situation. I did not take any action toward what I really wanted. I stumbled upon NLP through my old singing teacher and she became involved in NLP and she wanted someone to practice on when she first learned it. So that was my first introduction to NLP. It shifted my mindset so dramatically. My life literally went from black and white to technicolour. My life continued to spiralled upwards and I’ve continued to work on it and grow my results and take action to what I want. NLP and hypnosis helped me a lot and so I wanted to help people with this and so I did my certifications.

Kylie B

Can you explain what NLP is?

Kylie R

NLP is short for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Neuro is about our brain and it’s also about neurology. Linguistic is about our language that we speak to others and to ourselves. Programming relates to the patterns and programs that run in our minds unconsciously and almost refers to computer programming being able to reprogram yourself and upgrade your mental software. NLP is a communication tool that allows you to upgrade your mental software.

Kylie B

Can you give some insights to our listeners in terms of how to get that level of awareness around that negative programming?

Kylie R

The faulty programs show up in our lives as undesired consequences. It’s about tracking that back to yourself – at some point in your life you chose that situation. There’s some thinking process that says “Yes I’m going to allow this to happen” and so you have to reflect. You have to think about how worthy am I, how much value am I delivering to my job. Journaling your thoughts is the first thing. Your thoughts create your reality. So when you notice things in your field of awareness, that confirms or supports that belief that you already hold. Confirmation theory is very powerful.

Kylie B

How do people start to shift and to get confidence to go after what they want to achieve?

Kylie R

If you want to work on it in your own way and you just want to assess it to yourself, it starts with challenging the thought and realising that is a thought. It isn’t necessarily the truth so you need to ask yourself, “when did this start being the truth?” Journal it. Even if you focus on the negative things, there is an equal and opposite enough-ness in our life that is showing up that we are simply not noticing. Then it starts to shake up that belief and it’s not so certain anymore – it maybe a sometimes reality. You have to shift that focus to when you have been enough. You can start to list out the confirmation beliefs – it’s a simple and strategic way to shift your mind. If you want to take it to the next level, you can work it out with a coach. There are times when we dull down or avoid uncomfortable feelings. What I suggest to your listeners is to lean into that uncomfortable feeling. If you give yourself permission to feel that feeling, the feeling will pass and there will be wisdom for you.

Kylie B

You talked about nice girls – how certain things can be conditioned. Obviously you’re on a real quest to empower women, tell me more about that.

Kylie R

When I was started my coaching career, I was wanting to help people with weight loss and self-sabotage and help them find motivation to go out and do whatever they wanted to do. That has evolved overtime. It has become more of body image and habit change. Now more women are being able to speak the truth and uncover what they are passionate about. A lot of my work now is around giving women permission to uncover what they really want. There is a lot of programming that can prevent us from discovering true value which is ideally where our career should be placed.

Kylie B

In terms of you personally finding your purpose and calling, tell me more about that. Aside from your successful coaching career, you have singing. Tell me more about your courage on how you pursued that.

Kylie R

For a good 10 years I worked as a singer at night clubs. I did a couple of days a week coaching, running workshops and at weekends I sung at night clubs. Now I’m putting together coaching programs and training women around self expression and I’ve been getting some great song writing ideas and I’ll be bringing these to life.

Kylie B

As someone who has enjoyed success in a number of areas in your life, I’d love to understand what your definition of success is.

Kylie R

A lot of people define success as financial success. I define success as a self-actualised life. What I mean by that is it conforms with the theory of self actualisation. My definition of success is having a healthy body and plenty of energy, having financial stability, a sense of liberation in your voice, a sense of connected relationships. You have time freedom and energy freedom to pursue your passion. That’s a holistic definition of that allows you to be your best self.

Kylie B

I agree totally.  Is there any other career wisdom that you’d like to pass on to our listeners?

Kylie R

It’s about owning the value that you provide. You’ve got to think about the value that you are providing the world. If you want to advance in your financial wealth, then you need to provide more value in the world. However you do that, whether that be by advancing in your own mindset or leaning a new skill that you could bring into your company then you should be more proactive in advancing in your career instead of waiting for someone to grant you with that promotion. The greater value you will provide, the greater value you will receive. It gives you power over the creation you have in your career.

Kylie B

A big part of that is ownership and action. You understand value, you deliver value and you take action to make it all happen. And you get your head right first.