“Rising strong after a fall is how we cultivate wholeheartedness in our lives; it’s the process that teaches us the most about who we are.” Brene Brown

The way I see it, you have two options in life; you can play it safe, or you can opt to take risks. In short, you can play small, or you can play big. Both bring wildly differing outcomes.

Playing Big..

Playing big means thinking big, truly believing in yourself, taking risks, putting yourself out there. Taking risks however, is risky. Whenever you make a decision where the outcome is not guaranteed, you may loose. You may loose money, a significant object, a relationship or worse still you may loose your dignity or the trust and respect of others.

Playing Small...

Alternately, you could hold back, maybe just hold off even making decisions. However, not making a decision is in effect, making a decision. Stalling on making an important choice itself has consequences. Holding back in general and thinking small will however, wield a definite, certain result. That result is a small amount of success, limited personal growth and a small life.

So what must we do?

We must use learn to trust ourselves, invest in our ongoing education, seek to understand all perspectives and use wisdom and discernment in decision-making. Above all else we must believe, believe in ourselves, in others, in the universe, and believe that, no matter what, things will ultimately work out for the best. We must choose to play big, take action, and, to quote a famous Nike ad campaign “just do it”. Sometimes we simply need to put on our big boy/girl pants, get on with it and forge ahead, despite the risks, despite our fear or, in fact, because of it.

Falling, and getting back up again

Sometimes we’ll falter, fall, crash head-over-hells, stuff everything up, loose it all… Hey, this is life. There are no guarantees. But if you want to obtain all that you aspire to in life, you need to be brave. You need to be both brave enough to try, and, to fail. That said, I don’t believe in failure. Every so-called or so-perceived failure is, in fact, simply another opportunity to learn, if you treat it as such. Take any “failure”, understand what variables were under your control, look compassionately at both, yours and other parities contribution to the situation, process and the outcome. Don’t beat yourself up, be kind to yourself and take this as the incredible opportunity it is. Next, consider how you could have done things differently. And remember, you’re the only one that you have control of here, you can’t control others. Yes, you can influence them, but again, that comes down to your behaviour. Really consider how you acted, and why. Take the opportunity to intimately learn more about who you are and why you do what you do. Next time, take both, the insightful knowledge you have of yourself, and the respect and appreciation of who you are, and do things differently. Now, I don’t want to underestimate for one minute how tough it can be to fall, to be humiliated or hurt, loose someone, or something important. I simply want to point out that this is part of the learning process, or can be, if you choose it to be so. The pain and suffering can be your opportunity for growth.

What will you do?

The choice is yours, you can play small, or play big; reach for the stars, strive for new heights, think without limits, and really put, yourself out there. The riches of life are there for the taking. You can, if you choose to, step our of your comfort zone, play big, fall, pick yourself up, learn from the past, learn more about the wonderful person you are, and create the future of your wildest dreams.